Everyone's situation is different, of course, which is why advice differs. Here are the things that are important to you:
- Keep your wife happy,
- Want at least prewiring for roof and portable solar,
- Questioning whether to install roof solar right away because of shading: other stuff on roof, camping in trees, low sun angle in winter, etc.,
- Wondering if second battery would make sense because of 3-way refer, furnace, hot water and some accessories,
- Rarely connected to shore power but expect to be driving every couple of days,
Some commenters question the 3-way and hot water. My wife and I ended up with them because they came with our used Hawk and are glad we have them. They draw very little electrical power since they run on propane. Your biggest draw will be the furnace blower motor. Our camper didn't come with the factory heater; I installed a catalytic propane heater that doesn't use electricity.
I agree with the comments to focus on charging from your truck's alternator. Make sure you do this right with heavy cables, etc, with a system designed and installed by someone who really knows what they're doing. You'll want to be able to fully charge the battery which may take a charge controller, too. Get help figuring out just how much of a charge you can realistically expect given the amount of driving you expect to do.
The advantage of two batteries is the same as having two tanks of propane: extended energy. You'll never kick yourself for bringing that extra tank of propane or that extra battery. Multiple batteries work best when the are the same battery and are of equal freshness. That's an argument for having a second one installed at the same time as the first.
In any event, be sure to carry an extension cord for shore power. You'll be surprised how often you stop somewhere, even for an hour or two, when you can do a quick shore power plug in. The shore power charger that comes with the camper is a good one and will help top up the batteries when ever you get a chance to use it.
Finally, relax and just go camping. Part of the fun is learning to use your batteries and your systems.